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Volume 3, Issue 1, January 2010


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The Power of Words

Ken Nix

Monday, 1/25/2010

By Kenneth  Nix

In my last visit to the nursing home in Laurens, S.C. one of the residents I was visiting was reminiscing. I saw her face light up and her eyes grow soft and teary as she spoke of her husband who had long since passed. As she relayed various things to me about him, she started speaking of things he would say. She stopped and stated that it was amazing to her that out of all the big events they shared in life that what she remembered the most were the little things, specifically some of the things he had said to her. Her husband has been gone for over 30 years and what she remembers the most are his words. She treasures them and keeps them in fond memory. I don't know if we truly grasp the power of words, but words are remembered by people, and all words are remembered by God. In retrospect of my life I deeply regret some words spoken and some words not spoken. In words we have the power to lift up and the power to tear down. In the selfishness of my heart I have failed to say words of love and kindness, and in the selfishness of my heart  I have spoken some words that should never  have come from my lips. I know I do not speak of myself only when sharing this.  I feel sure  all of you know exactly what I am talking about.

I remember my dad telling me that my grandfather would never speak ill of anyone. That is a worthy thing to remember and would have been a wonderful thing to have put upon his tombstone. It is something I wish could be said of me. I cannot change the past, but you and I can  take control of the present and future by surrendering our tongue and lips to our Savior. Pray and determine not to speak words of evil.

What are words of evil you may ask. Look at Matthew 12:36, “But I say unto you, that every idle word that men speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.”  Another meaning of the word “idle” here is lazy or useless. Many use profanity without even thinking of their words. I remember one of my English teachers from high school saying that the use of profanity was a show of ignorance and a show of laziness. She was correct. Such words should not be used. Other idle or useless words are words that hurt or harm others. Words of gossip or hearsay are idle words. Words of untruth are idle words.

We are told in James 3:8 - 10 “But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God, out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.”

What's the point if we can't tame our tongue? Simple, most things required of us by God cannot be done by our own human effort. It takes surrender unto God. Then with his power, we can subdue the tongue. It takes surrender and it takes obedience. We need to guard our tongues and  think before we speak. We have such power in words. There is power to edify and lift up as well as tear down. We need to submit to God's will and have our words edify. We need to live by God's word and share God's word.

In a recent newsletter there was an article entitled, “The Whispered Word.” I would recommend reading this often so that you can stay continually aware of the danger and power of words.

At the women's conference recently held in Spartanburg, I was blessed to speak on the power of words. Jesus gave me a message on this and I will share parts of the points with you. I will not quote them word for word but will paraphrase. Good words are possible. Remember, words flow from your thoughts, so if your thoughts are of the light and are pure, your words will be also. A judgmental heart will cause words that hurt and condemn. You need to ask yourselves, what is the cause of biting words and words that hurt? As shown in Matthew, it would be better to be silent than to speak hurtful words.

In the introduction from Jesus, he spoke these words of me, “My servant Kenneth will lead this discussion. He is beloved and I am with him.  He once spoke words that cut and words that hurt others. He, too, has been the recipient of harsh words, so he has walked in muted light but now he walks in the light of heaven.” These words hold true of many of you.

The Mighty Ones of heaven have given us much and much is required. Jesus gave his daughters a warning in the message I reviewed with them. It is a warning I feel all need to hear. Jesus gave us these words, “In the days ahead I shall judge those who hurt the innocent by the words spoken. Seek to be innocent before me.”

In being innocent before our Lord Jesus we do not need to participate in idle words. This means that we do not speak them and it also means that we do not listen to them. Too many in this world seem to seek words about others and run like pigs to the trough to get the latest piece of gossip or trash on another.  We are not to be this way. To walk in the light means we can not participate in this type of thing. Some major magazines such as “US” and “People” thrive off of the need to know the dirt on someone else. In their case that someone tends to be a celebrity.

I was recently at a wedding and I had two instances occur that showed me examples of idle words. One man came up to me and immediately commented on the weight of one of the women there. To my shame I didn't know what to say. I was totally caught flatfooted. This is unusual for me because sometimes, to my detriment, I immediately have something to say. After the man walked off I realized I probably should have told him that she was a sweet lady and that I loved her and so did God. I wouldn't have spoken against the man but I would have shown that his words were inappropriate.  Instead, he left likely thinking that I agreed with him. Right after this one man left, another came up to me and immediately began to speak about another man commenting on the man's tie and advising that someone needed to give him lessons on how to tie a tie. This time, I wasn't caught as flatfooted and was able to respond. I told him that likely the man didn't wear ties often and what did it matter and that the way he was wearing it used to be the style and likely would be again. I told him, “Who knows in a couple of years we may be wearing ours the same way.”  The man agreed with me and changed subjects. Thankfully I was able to stop the conversation in the direction it was going without hurting the one speaking the words as well.

Words are so important, and we need to be constantly aware of what we are saying and aware of what is being said to us. In I Peter 3:10, we are told, “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.”

We have been told to have the eyes of Jesus. We need to see all with the eyes of love and need to seek to help those in need. Words are a powerful tool to use. Words in prayer spoken from a heart of love or words of kindness to someone who is hurting are most  powerful. 




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